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Ah, the Friend Zone. It's more common than you might think. You are safe, reliable, sensitive, comfortable to be around and probably always available. Women value that and taking it to the next level would throw it into jeopardy. Barring some sort of rom-com series of incidents there's no way out of the Friend Zone, or at least that's been my experience with the lovely Amanda

.We have so much fun, but it's never going to happen. Apart from anything else I went to school with her husband and some things are sacred. So eventually, after working on a script we were co-writing - and a few glasses of wine - I straight up asked 'Can you fix me up with a date with a high possibity of sex, and do you have any suggestions on how to increase that possibility.?'

She was very helpful and well connected.. I found myself invited to dinner parties with recent divorcees, with very mixed results But I was always well briefed beforehand. I'm not saying that will always happen, but if women friends talk to you in confidence then you can do the same with them. Probably.

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It sounds to me that you may be just feeling insecure with yourself.are what we think we are. Other will see us as we see ourselves and will pick up on this. So the more you tell positive you feed yourself about yourself, the more others will do the same. This works the other way as well, and it sounds like this is whats going on with you. Enjoy being you and the rest will take care of itself. Women are attracted to guys who seem to have it together and are authentic. Be yourself, and then the right woman will come along cause she'll see the real you and not just someone you "think" you should be.Personally I think psychiatrist are for people that just do or think weird (very different stuff) or have severe abnormalities that affect their everyday lives in a very obvious way. Your thinking here is very normal. I think you just want that to happen so much that because it hasn't happened yet, your thinking that there must be something wrong with you. Not so! Enjoy being you and enjoy life first. Get involved in things you like. More than likely, the right woman for you will be involved in these things too. Examples: bowling leagues, hiking groups, writing groups, kayaking, biking, etc..... Have fun with the things in life and the rest will come along. Learn to like "YOU" first. Hope this has been helpful. God Bless!

Honey, you don't need a psychologist, they'll just overcomplicate things and hand you a bill. You are "the friend", the guy that girls feel comfortable with and feel they can say or do anything around. You're the guy that they come to and cry on your shoulder about the (real) boyfriend cheating on or ignoring them, right? To pick the scab, they frequently tell you what a "nice guy you are", and the killer, "why can't every guy be like you?" Then, they are off to the pub, disco or Spring Break to meet, date, and likely sleep with the next Mr. Disaster.

The problem is, they are all looking for Mr. Right - and it's not you, or you wouldn't be just "the friend". Mr. Right is someone they are absorbed, nervous, self-conscious and worried about their looks with all the time. YOU are the guy that they don't have to do that with ... bingo, "the friend". And, of course, the fact that have good job, Beaver-Cleaver-grade family, go out, have (male) friends, maybe even being very cute and good-looking, won't help - these girls seem to be programmed to seek out "losers". Then they fail as before, and the first paragraph above happens again.

Solution? Lose the girlfriends. Stop being "the friend". Start being the slightly mysterious guy that is a bit "hard to get". No girl wants to date a guy with 100 girl friends - she wants to be the Girlfriend (no space), get it? And, maybe change where you're shopping ... get interests, join clubs, get a hot car, go to church (yes, church), broaden out from the after-work pub scene or Saturday night clubs. Trust me, if what you say about yourself is true, real girls are searching for YOU to marry - today.

So, skip the shrink ... unless she's cute.

Here is a suggestion you might like to consider. Dr. Jackie Black - PhD. is a relationship expert and a colleague. Here is the link to her blog http://www.askdrjackie.com Wishing you the best!

I've decided that I want to go to see a psychologist as I have a few things on my mind which I want to be able to discuss with someone who is not close to me, and someone who is an expert & trained in human behaviour, who may be able to offer opinions and advice. I am what most people would perciave to be an extremely well rounded and stable person, almost everything in my life is going really well, except for one thing, and it occupies my thoughts constantly.

I have a fantastic life, great job, social life, friends, family etc etc etc, however I'm in my mid 20's and apart from when I was 18 I have never had a proper girlfriend. I have loads of female friends, more than almost any guy I know, I am very close to them and they hold me very dearly, but every time I find a women I like, we end up just being friends. I am sick of it. There is no logical reason that in all this time just one of them would like me in the same way, but what always happenes to me is either they just want to be friends or somehting else gets in the way.

Unfortunately this is somehting I am not confortable discusing with friends etc and this is why I want to see a psychologist to help me get a better understanding of myself and how I can addres this issue. The thing is I have no idea who to go about this. I want to make sure I go to someone who is specifically experienced in these types of matters and that I feel confortable with.

I had a look here: site psyonline.tk but I'm still not sure exactly what type of psychologist I should be aiming for.

I was wondering if anyone here can offer some advise as to how I can take this one stage further, as I have been considering doing this for a very long time and now I finally want to go and do it.

Thanks

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Good idea to share with colleagues...there used to be an email icon on many sites...why is that disappearing?

You need an additional rqdio button above: Share (With a Colleague)

This would allow us to recommend you to others who might benefit. Not everyone uses Facebook or Linked In.